Do all memories need to be recovered?

Q: Do all our memories need to be recovered and processed to heal? - Tom

A: No, not at all. If that was the case, you'd probably spend a VERY long time in counseling and miss out on a lot of the life you could be living NOW! You have to remember enough to know what happened, why you have parts, and what needs to be done to feel safe again. Most Multiples have gone through repeated abuse events, sometimes with more than one abuser. Each abuser has to be addressed in counseling, but many of the types of abuse events were repeated. As you deal with a few memories related to one abuser and one type of abuse event, you'll also be dealing indirectly with the other similar events (and usually the same alters). Some memories stand out as major turning points, major traumas, or other life-changing events which tend to require a lot of processing in therapy so not all memories are created equal!